The 4 Secrets To Good Health, Calm and Confidence

Ok… let’s get real. I hate quick fixes. I hate “miracles”,  I hate “cure-all” mentalities. I hate the word “secret”, to be honest.

I want good health for your entire family. I want confidence for you. I want calm for you and all those around you.

You’ll read elsewhere on my blog about the main message I want to send to families… that what and how you feed your kids can have a profound influence on their behaviour, their mood, their energy, their resilience.

But I want all this to come together for you in a way that doesn’t make you go crazy – I know you already have a gazillion balls  in the air.

So that’s what this blog post is about.

Once I tell you about these 4 “secrets” to good health, calm and confidence, you might think “well duh… ok… that’s simple”. Or you might think “uh… ok… so, um… how?”

I’ll admit, these are not so secret secrets.

And I’ll admit they are easier said than done.

And I’ll admit that there are often more factors to consider if you want to achieve good health, calm and confidence.

But here’s the thing. You’re a busy parent. You have a million things to do. A million hats to wear. You’re torn in dozens of directions all at the same time.


Having a FRAMEWORK to think about how you’re going to help your kids is key.

Knowing exactly where to spend your time and energy so you are EFFICIENT is key.

Focusing on what you have CONTROL over is key.

So let me lay this out for you.

If you are trying to use food to improve the health, behaviour, development, learning, focus or mood of your child (or yourself for that matter) here are the 4 things you need to focus on.

1. Remove Irritation.

I think of irritation like water filling a glass. We have a remarkable ability to keep our glass from overflowing; to tolerate things that do not contribute to our health – things like toxic chemicals, stress, smoke, additives, metals – but we can only manage so much. When we get close to the top of our threshold we start to feel symptoms. Maybe headaches, or fatigue, or constipation, or moodiness. When we overflow we get the diagnosis. Maybe it’s Allergy, Autism, ADHD, ODD, or Asthma – the symptoms that used to come and go, just aren’t going away at this point.

There are things to consider that can help your both empty the glass and improve the body’s ability to handle these stressors.  Aggressive detox is between you and your doctor, but what can you do? You can help by emptying your child’s glass of whatever you can that is not contributing to wellness.

How do you do that? Here are a few ways to start…

  • Reduce exposure to chemicals by revisiting your cleaning products, your personal care products, reading food ingredients...
  • Find and remove foods to which the immune system is reacting
  • Reduce sugar... we all know it’s bad for us. Cut down and switch to healthier options (and please stop feeling like reducing sugar is somehow depriving your child of a happy childhood)
  • Get more sleep and practice good sleep hygiene
  • Focus on eating real, whole food as much as you can - food that is as close as its natural state as possible. (I get it, your child is picky... only eats 4 foods and those foods are white... got it. Do you know why they are picky? You might want to read this)

The next 3 you'll often hear me refer to as "The 3 Core Diet Strategies". While the one you just read about is focussed on "cleaning up", these next 3 are focussed on building good health.

2. Improve Nutrient Density.

Get Those Nutrients In. Nutrients build the structure of our bodies and drive its function. There are 8 nutrients you need every single day. I talk about them all in my book and outline for you how to get them covered in my coaching

How to get those nutrients in? Here are a few things to start with….

  • Cook your grains (if you eat them) in homemade broth and coconut milk instead of water
  • Try nutritive teas like nettle, rosehip and turmeric instead of juice
  • Buy food as locally as you can, from farmers who care about the microbial and nutritional diversity of their soil
  • If you need supplements to fill the gaps here are some things to consider.
  • (again... I know you're thinking it... the pickiness.  I get it. Read this)

3. Support Blood Sugar.

When you control your blood sugar you influence your master hormones cortisol and insulin. When you do that you start to influence your other hormones as well because they work in an interconnected web. Hormones are chemical messengers in the body. They tell organs what to do. Eating for blood sugar stability helps ensure our organs are getting appropriate messages and function their best. Not to mention, hormones directly influence our mood and behaviour so keeping them in good working order is critical. Blood sugar is our dietary “on-ramp” for hormone control.

How do you eat for good blood sugar control? Here are a few ways to start…

  • Pay attention to your eating patterns throughout the day
  • Bring in critical nutrients like magnesium and chromium that help with sugar metabolism
  • Choose your carbohydrates wisely
  • Consume enough fibre, fat and protein
  • Don’t eat foods to which your immune system is reacting

4. Support Digestion.

If you haven’t heard about the profound influence your digestive system has on your entire body, I expect you are new to my world… so, welcome!!.

Your digestive system is an interface between the external environment and the internal environment of your body. It houses most of your immune system. It contains more neurones than the spinal cord and is in constant conversation with your brain. The microbes in your gut educate your immune cells, contribute to the digestion and absorption of your food, help you detoxify, help regulate your appetite, create a physical barrier against pathogens, create vitamins, hormones and neurotransmitters.

Here’s a tip… if you are working with a doctor about a health concern and there is no conversation about what’s going on in the gut, I suggest you add someone to your team who will have this discussion with you.

That’s it. That’s all I have to say. For today. Four things.

If you want to use food as a tool for improving your health or that of your kids you need to focus on what’s most important. 

So get beyond the headlines. Go deeper than diet dogma. Understand the influence of food on the body and focus your energy on making choices that give you the biggest return on your investment of time, money and energy. You have limited amounts. I know.

Need More Support? Check out our coaching program here.  I'll walk you through exactly how to do this so your kids can learn better, focus better, have more stable moods, self regulate better, and thrive.

Until you do these four things discussed here, don't waste your time on expensive therapies and medications... you need a solid foundation first. 

Raising Resilience


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